What does it look like to have true informed consent? What does it mean to be trusted by your birth team?
This week we’re speaking with Zo’e Cole, a mama to two who just had her first Happy Homebirth.
I’m looking forward to this episode, because Zo’e brings up some aspects of both of her births that truly paint a picture between obstetric abuse and informed consent. Let’s jump in.
Wasn’t that the picture of a Happy Homebirth? I’m so thrilled for Zo’e and the fact that she was able to experience such a peaceful event after having such a traumatic first birth.
As we dive into this week’s episode roundup, a few discussion points come to mind.
- Zo’e discussed how she really felt she was on auto pilot with her first pregnancy. I feel like this happens to so many women, and I really think this is a societal issue— not recognizing birth for the totally transformative, life-altering rite of passage that it is. And what’s so sad is that when we don’t realize this, we can’t prepare for it with the honor that it deserves. So… make sure you’re shouting this message from the mountain tops, whether someone wants to give birth at home or in hospital, preparation for this event is of course paramount.
- Holy obstetric abuse, batman. Listening to Zo’e’s experience, although it’s common, still brings a blood boiling feeling. I know that there are some amazing OBs out there, but dang, the ones who do things like break your water and then call it discharge or fuss at you to be induced at 39 weeks…. They’re all too common. And of course, there are midwives like that, too. We’ve got to be so selective when it comes to our care providers ,for our own protection and the protection of our babies.
- Finally, what a difference between her first and second babies. Zo’e truly took her pregnancy and birth into her own hands with her second baby, and boy was she blessed by the experience. Zo’e took Happy Homebirth Academy, went to the chiropractor, did acupuncture, nourished herself… everything she could to honor this birth and this baby. As she said, her first birth experience taught her so much, and with her second, she was able to step into motherhood for a second time totally transformed.
Okay my friends, that’s all I’ve got for you today. I’ll see you back here next week.