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Show Notes:

-Stephanie is a fitness and nutrition coach for new and expecting moms.

-She’s been working in the industry for almost a decade now.

- Stephanie began doing this work almost by “accident”… one of her clients became pregnant, so she realized she needed to learn more about pregnancy in relation to fitness.  She was a natural at it, and the mother, who had several pregnant friends, asked if she would do a group class.

-Through this experience, her career was born.

-When it came to preparing her own body for a successful labor and delivery, Stephanie said the things she considered were:

            -Nurturing her body with proper fluids, eating an anti-inflammatory diet, and making sure she was getting all of the nutrients she needed

            -She said it was important to make sure that she was not in any pain, because when you’re in  pain, the last thing you want to do is get up and do a workout.

-“It’s important to work specifically for what you want to accomplish”

-She mentions that for labor, our legs need lots of stamina, we need mobility in our hips, and we need overall strength and endurance.

-“Labor is a big interval session, right?  You get a contraction, you get some time off.  And then repeat!”

-“If you can work out in a way that almost simulates labor, then you’re in a good place when it’s actually time.”

-Stephanie saw a pelvic floor physiologist, a chiropractor and an osteopath during her pregnancy.

“I kept repeating through labor… I can’t believe THIS is how we get people into the world… I can’t believe this is how we populate the planet!”

 

            -Stephanie mentions again how important whole, natural foods were in her prenatal preparation.  She made sure to eat all of the colors of the rainbow, and if she had a craving for something unhealthy, she would try to recreate it in a healthy way.

            -She also mentions how important supplementation was during pregnancy: A link to her guide for prenatal supplements is mentioned below.

 

Stephanie’s Birth Story:

-She feels it went pretty much as smoothly as it could be.  She wants to note that there was no ego about this- she did not want a homebirth at the risk of her health or her baby’s healthy. 

-She was only 38 weeks and 3 days… “My husband said he knew I was in labor because the bathroom was cleaned!”

-The next morning, around 6 am, she felt some contractions and intuitively knew she was in labor.  Stephanie had not had any Braxton Hicks, but she felt confident that these were early labor contractions.

-She remembered her midwife saying try to get some sleep during labor, so she tried.  By about 7:30, she was ready to get out of bed.  She headed for the bath, but became overheated and got out.

-At this point her step sons were awake, so she let them know that she was pretty sure she was in labor, so not to worry if she bent over and moaned or had to work through contractions a bit.

-A while later, Stephanie called her doula to tell her that although the timing of the contractions was still all over the place, she was experiencing more and more pain.  Her doula suggested that she come over to work on some acupressure points to potentially get contractions more consistent.

-Stephanie’s mother was also on the way over- Stephanie made a “game time decision” to let her mom come to the birth.

-She discusses how beneficial her decision to hire a doula was for her birth experience.  Having someone there to help her determine what needed to be done at what time was invaluable.

-Stephanie mentions how vague the timeline is when in labor.  She doesn’t know exactly when her doula came, when she got in the tub, etc.  She does know, however, that her entire labor was 16 hours, 6 of those being classified as “active labor”.

- “By the time I was at the pushing phase, my legs felt like Bambi legs.”  Stephanie says she was unable to sit down or lie down throughout her labor, so her legs felt incredibly weak towards the end.  She mentions how grateful she was that she had trained for this exactly, because she can’t imagine how anyone could do this without muscular endurance in their legs!

-Stephanie says that the great thing about deciding to have an unmedicated birth was that she could feel everything.  When her midwife told her to keep pushing, Stephanie responded “I’m done pushing for the moment” because she knew what her body was telling her to do.

-She mentions how there were those moments of defeat-like feelings when she would push and feel baby’s head come closer, and then retreat.  But in retrospect, she thinks of how useful that system is- stretching mom and preparing her body for crowning.

-Stephanie’s baby’s head finally emerged.  Baby’s body, however, did not immediately glide right out.  Her hands were up at her chin, and her arms stuck to the side of baby’s torso…. Making for a much wider circumference, more similar to pushing out the head still.

-“At that point, I knew I had to push beyond where I could,” Stephanie remembers.

-“If I don’t give an extra 10% now, it’s going to mean I have to do so much more work for -another push.”

-Finally, Stephanie’s midwife said, “On this next push, I’m going to hand you your baby from between your legs.”  The next push came, and sure enough, Stephanie’s daughter was in her arms. 
-She remembers her first words to her little one, “You did a good job, my baby!  You did a good job!”

-Moments after, she began shaking and her teeth began to chatter because of all of the adrenaline.

-The midwife got an oxytocin (Pitocin) shot ready for Stephanie to deliver the placenta.  Stephanie said, “Hang on a second, what’s that for?”  The midwife responded that it was to get the placenta out.  Stephanie used the BRAIN acronym and asked about the benefits and risks… she then asked if they could wait for the placenta to be birthed on its own.  The midwives said waiting an hour would be fine.

-Within 20 minutes, the placenta was born on its own without the use of Pitocin.

-Stephanie’s mom cut the cord, which was very special.

-“And now we can snuggle and go to bed.  And the same place she was born was the same place we stayed for days.”

-To Stephanie, having a homebirth didn’t feel like an act of bravery.  In her own head, she was avoiding the things she was scared of: the hospital, the cascade of interventions, etc.

-“During the whole labor, I remember I kept saying, ‘I’m going to die.’  But I knew I wasn’t actually going to die, I just needed everyone around me to know how bad it hurt!”

-Stephanie said she read the book The First 40 Days, which very much inspired her take on postpartum.  Personally, she didn’t want to stay in bed for 40 days, but 9 days in bed was perfect for her.  After that, she said she was beginning to feel sore from the inactivity, so she knew it was time to begin moving!

-She took the first 6 weeks as a time to absolutely not work out.  Stephanie says that in the whole scheme of things, really, what’s 6 weeks?

-Stephanie mentions how if you push yourself too hard at the beginning of postpartum, then you might not be able to do the things you typically do later.

  -She says it’s important to remember that you aren’t truly starting over, your going back to the foundation and rebuilding up and out, starting with with the pelvic floor and core breathing.

-Stephanie says, “And I’m six months postpartum and I’m still working up.  I’m not back exactly to where I was before, but why should that be the goal?”

-She mentions that just as  you have to prepare for birth in a certain way, you also have to prepare for postpartum in a certain way.

-Stephanie discusses the fact that if she were to tear her ACL, at her 6-week appointment, her doctor would clear her for physical therapy… NOT EXERCISE!  Why then, after birth (a physical trauma), are doctors immediately clearing moms for exercise at 6 weeks?  We need to shift our perspective when it comes to postpartum recovery.  “We need to shift the way we look at postpartum recovery.” 

-“It took almost a year to build that baby… give your body that amount of time to recover from it.”

-We have to be realistic with ourselves and our expectations of our bodies postpartum.

 

Connect with Stephanie!

Complete Guide to Prenatal Supplements: https://stephaniesibbio.com/resources/guide-to-prenatal-supplements/ 

 

Chocolate Chip Oat Muffins (great to prep and freeze for postpartum recovery): https://stephaniesibbio.com/chocolate-chip-banana-oat-muffins/ 

 

Glowing Mama To Be Course: https://stephaniesibbio.clickfunnels.com/glowing-mama-to-be

 

Glowing Mama Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/glowingmamas/

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephsibbiofitness/ 

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Show Notes:

-Kerry is the founder and creator of Hypnobabies, which was created in 2001.

-She created the program after having her own two births.  At that time, she was a Bradley Instructor.

-Both of her babies were posterior (“sunny side up”) which caused for labors that she describes as extremely painful.  She felt that the Bradley Method was wonderful for teaching about labor, but did not help her cope well enough with the pain.

-After 26 hours of pain, she had an epidural, which she says helped her become a more understanding childbirth educator- she could certainly understand the need/desire for a mother to have an epidural.

- During her second birth, her sister saw her in agony and said, “It should never have to be this hard.”

-Kerry set forth to find a way to make childbirth easier for women.

-She soon saw a tv program about a doctor who was using hypnosis for his patients, and how their birthings were going much better.

-Kerry went to a training for this.  She then attended births using this method, and the women were all still clearly in pain.

-She decided there was something else that she needed to find.  She became a Certified Hypnotherapist, and took several specialty courses.  One of which was Gerald Kein’s “Painless Childbirth” program.

-She transformed Kein’s information with his excited permission, into a childbirth education program. 

-“The goal of Hypnobabies is to have the easiest, most comfortable birthing possible” by using deep, somnambulistic hypnosis. 

-Hypnobabies is considered “medical grade” hypnosis.  This type of hypnosis is used for patients who are allergic to anesthesia.  They use this type of hypnosis when having surgery.

 

What Makes Hypnobabies Different?!

- Kerry’s philosophy is that if you are learning childbirth hypnosis, you need to learn your childbirth education at the same place.  This ensures that the hypnosis and education support a mother’s mindset and belief that she can in fact have an easy, joyful birth experience.

The Hypnobabies program covers all aspects of childbirth education: nutrition, how a mother can help keep herself low-risk, the stages of labor, how to use hypnosis throughout those stages, hypnosis for pregnancy, selecting a compatible care provider and birthing place, questions to ask care providers, information about doulas and midwives, natural comfort measures for pregnancy, risk/benefit analysis for interventions, creating a birth plan, informed consent, optimal fetal positioning, anatomy and physiology of late pregnancy & birthing, avoiding induction and cesarean, benefits of delayed cord clamping, birth partner preparation, and even a birthing rehearsal. 

-Hypnobabies even provides information about new mothers and babies: how to take care of the new mother and baby, etc. 

-Hypnobabies provides a “change of plans” script: This allows mom to stay in hypnosis, even though something might be changing from the original birth plan.

-Eyes Open Childbirth Hypnosis- this is unique to Hypnobabies.  Moms learn to walk and talk an change positions all without losing focus in hypnosis.

-Hypnobabies Birth Visualization Track:  Mom goes through a mental birth rehearsal (the way they want it to be) as she listens to this track.  Practicing whatever they want to do or accomplish helps on the actual day of labor… the repetition programs your subconscious mind to produce the birth you want.  It’s practically a blueprint for the birthing.

-Joyful Pregnancy Affirmations Track: They really do change the state of mind of the mother during her pregnancy. 

-Kerry mentions that birth often times progresses more quickly than expected with the Hypnobabies mother.  This is why the program comes with a Quick Reference Booklet.  More than other times, a mother might seem completely calm and relaxed when she is actually very close to having her baby.

-Many women have told Kerry that they chose to have a homebirth after taking Hypnobabies because they had the confidence of knowing they could give birth peacefully without the use of medication.

-She discusses the fact that Hypnobabies acknowledges how every mother knows what she needs.  The program is there to give information, and to allow the mother to feel confident in whatever choices she decides are best for her and her family.

-Kerry mentions that sometimes, for whatever reason, a mom might do all of the practicing, but then not follow through during her birth.  She reminds moms that to get the full effect, it’s important to use the cues, listen to the tracks, or have their birth partner read the scripts during the actual birthing time.

-“Peace” is the most powerful hypnoanesthesia cue.

 

Moms Wanting to Learn More About Hypnobabies/Find Local Instructors:

  • hypnobabies.com
  • You can select from an online homestudy course, the “classic homestudy”, or find a local instructor

Make sure you also check out:

-Becoming a Hypnobabies Childbirth Instructor: the training is coming up in late April of 2019

-Becoming a Hypnodoula

 

You can also find more on facebook, twitter, Instagram and Hypnobabies even has a youtube channel!

 

www.facebook.com/hypnobabies

www.youtube.com/hypnobabies

www.twitter.com/hypnobabies

https://www.instagram.com/hypnobabiesofficial_/

 

 

Episode Roundup:

  1. Labor does NOT have to be scary and painful- prepare yourself for this life-altering event by taking the time to educate yourself about childbirth. I 100% recommend finding a private course, not just the one your hospital dishes out at their tour.
  2. If you decide to use Hypnobabies, commit! Use the advice and resources given here by the actual creator of the course to give yourself the most joyful, peaceful labor you can have.
  3. Be sure to involve your birthing team in your childbirth preferences. If you choose to use Hypnobabies, make sure your midwife/doula/OB and birth partner are on board and know what that means for their role.

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About Our Guest:

Suzzie Vehrs is a birth advocate and lover. After her first birth  left her broken and in need of deep healing, she knew she had to do things differently the next time around. Her HBAC birth was the BEST experience of her life. Suzzie is determined to inspire mothers to use pregnancy and birth as a time to explore their creative powers, sink deep into feeling wonderful and creating an experience that truly serves both mother and baby. If you want to find your birthing and mama power you must read her book Divine Birth and check out her article on the surprising ways prenatal yoga helps you birth like a goddess, even if you're terrified of labor. 

 
 
 

 

Show Notes

-Suzzie’s first birth was an emergency c section, where she felt she had no control

-She spent the next few years in therapy, doing her best to process what had happened to her and overcome her birth trauma.

-For her second birth, which was several years later, she decided to research local midwives

-After finding a midwife that she considered a perfect fit, she was finally able to feel excited about the prospect of her second birth.

-Suzzie feels that her second birth was incredibly healing and was able to deeply curb the pain and sense of loss she felt in relation to her first birth.

-She gave birth in the water, and her midwife directed her baby’s body towards her.  Suzzie picked up her baby and patted her back.  Hazel cried for a few moments, the nestled comfortably into Suzzie’s arms, safe and sound.

-“We just had this moment of total peace, serenity, calmness and happiness… and she was here.  In my arms.”

-As mentioned previously, Suzzie’s first birth was not quite as peaceful.  She mentions that when she told them her plan to give birth naturally, they were not very supportive of the idea.  Looking back, she realizes this was a sign of the care to come.

- Her water broke before contractions began, and she was essentially put on a “clock” by her doctor.

-She labored through the night, and then in the morning when she was beginning to feel rather uncomfortable, she went to the hospital.

-The admitting nurse asked the typical intake questions, and when she found out that Suzzie’s water had broken the night before, she responded by saying, “Your water broke 12 hours ago?  You could have killed your baby.”

-These harsh words, unsurprisingly, put Suzzie into a place of shock and fear, and her labor stalled.  “My labor just stopped.”

-They put Suzzie on Pitocin, and she did not feel that she was able to cope with the pain of the contractions.  Looking back, she says that she did was not as aware of as many coping mechanisms as she was with her second birth.

-“They whisked her away, and my husband away with her.  Which, I’m glad he got to go, but that left me alone.”

-Suzzie was so dehydrated that she felt she might die from it, and in the meantime, nobody in the operating room would give her a straight answer about whether or not her baby was okay.

-Once they finished surgery, Suzzie was taken to another room, where she waited for several hours alone and in the dark without knowing what had happened to her baby.

-Suzzie mentions that her decision to have a homebirth after cesarean was made once she saw that the research pointed to uterine rupture not necessarily being caused by having a vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC), but by the use of Pitocin.

-She knew that she would have to have a homebirth, as birth centers in her area are not regulated to perform VBACs.

-She mentions how comforting it was to be under the care of someone who cared about her in a holistic way: Not just, are you breathing?  Do you have a pulse?  Does the baby have a pulse?”

-Out of her trauma came healing.  Suzzie has since authored the book “Divine Birth: A Collection of Wisdom + Coloring Pages to Inspire and Empower the Pregnant Mother”

-“Pregnancy and birth is really a chance for us as women to explore our creative powers and to step into our womanhood.”

-“I am worthy to have experiences that not only serve me, but are the best for me and my baby.”

-Suzzie mentions that her bravery was shown more powerfully in her traumatic hospital birth where she had to cope with all of the difficulties that followed.  In comparison, the homebirth was easy.

-“At some point in your journey, someone will ask you, ‘How did you know you could do it?’ and you will answer, ‘Because I looked within.’”

-“When you make decisions that are lined up with the answers inside of you, you will have a great birth experience.”

 

Episode Roundup:

 

  1. Take note of your care provider’s attitude when you share your birth plans with them. If you notice that you are not being treated with respect, it’s time to search for a new provider.  Remember, you are hiring these people!  You can fire them, too.
  2. Educate yourself on what is normal during childbirth. I recommend birthing classes, as well as a number of books that you can find on the happy homebirth website under “resources”.  By being informed, you’ll be able to notice anything fishy going on with your care.
  3. Hire a doula!!!
  4. If you have experienced birth trauma, seek help. Suzzie sought therapy after her traumatic experience, and if you’ve had something like this happen to you, I urge you to do the same.  These experiences and emotions cannot help but to seep into every other aspect of our lives.  There is no sense in struggling alone. 
  5. “When you make decisions that are lined up with the answers inside of you, you will have a great birth experience.”

 

 

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What motivates you to share your story?  In Rebecca's case, she knew that she couldn't be the only one who struggled to conceive.  She and her husband tried to become pregnant for several years before putting away the idea and beginning to consider adoption.  To say that they were surprised several months later when Rebecca became pregnant would be an understatement.  In this episode, Rebecca reveals her struggle, her faith, and her eventual success.  She shares her story to provide comfort to those who, like her, have experienced deep hurt over infertility.   

Show Notes

-Rebecca and her husband were married in 2013

-Because they were 34 and 35, they both thought it would be possible that they could struggle with becoming pregnant, so they began trying soon after their marriage.

-Rebecca discusses the incredible discomfort after getting off her birth control- she likens it to going through withdrawals.  Her body was acting as though it was pregnant when she knew she was not.

-She discusses the grief and pain she felt as all of the newlywed couples around her so easily go pregnant, while she and her husband struggled and received the news that IVF was going to be their best option.

-Rebecca says she learned that she had to trust the Lord, and he took her to a place where in December of 2015, she remembers realize her self-worth was not tied up in motherhood, her career, or even womanhood.  Rather, her self-worth was completely tied up in God.

-She remembers making a facebook post on December 12, 2015 stating that she had peace and had come to terms with her journey…. And exactly one year from that date, December 12, 2016 Rebecca gave birth to her first son.

-At that point (Dec 2015), they had decided that they were going to stop trying and pursue adoption.

-In April of 2016 Rebecca returned from a conference feeling rather “crummy.”  She assumed she had picked some type of bug up on the trip.  Her nursing coworkers begged her to take a pregnancy test.  She finally did, and it was positive!

-“I choose to speak about the infertility, because so many women feel like they’re alone, and feel like they’re the only one walking this path…. And they’re not.”

-Rebecca was seeing an OB at the time, but decided to switch to a homebirth midwife.  She connected very deeply with her midwife and had an amazing prenatal experience

-Labor, however did not go according to plan: She went into labor around 10:00 on a Friday night.  By 3:00 am, everything had stopped.  Contractions were completely gone.  This lasted all day Saturday and into Sunday afternoon.  She did everything she could to get labor to progress: Walking, birthing ball, position changes… nothing would get contractions to come back consistently.

-On Sunday afternoon, Rebecca decided she needed to get out of the house and walk (in the freezing cold!!).

-By 11:30pm on Sunday night, Rebecca was at 8 cm.  After hitting 8 cm, she once again would not progress. 

-By 9:00 am, Rebecca’s midwife mentioned to her that it might be time to head to the hospital to receive some rest with an epidural, and Rebecca agreed.

-She went to the hospital, received the epidural, was able to sleep for several hours, and then was able to push her baby out by 6:00 that evening.

-With her second child, she found out that she was pregnant in a very interesting way!  After having a fall through a step in her house, she began taking Motrin for the pain. A few days in, she had the random thought, “Maybe I shouldn’t be taking this Motrin… Maybe I should take a pregnancy test.” No other symptoms, yet the test came back positive!

- For their second birth, Rebecca’s mother came over in the morning to pick up her 2-year-old, as she keeps him while Rebecca works. 

-At 7:30 am Rebecca was having small contractions that were irregular and not very timeable.  This continued until about 2:00 pm.

-At 2:00 contractions quickly began to become consistent, longer, stronger and closer together.

-With things suddenly moving so quickly, Rebecca was worried her midwife might not make it!  When she heard her midwife’s voice in the house, she was completely relieved and ready.

-Within 10 minutes, Rebecca had the baby!

-She had no tearing, no complications, and Donovan was wide awake and crying when he was born.

-“I was on such a high after it was all over—that I had done it—completely at home, completely unmedicated.”

-Her second birth was 11 hours, start to finish.

-When describing the emotions after she gave birth, Rebecca says, “it was both powerful and euphoric all at the same time.”

-Rebecca and her midwife laugh about the fact that they’ve had the birth pool set up twice and never used it… this time she gave birth on the couch!

-When commenting on her story, particularly with infertility, Rebecca says, “There is power in knowing that you’re not alone.”

 

Episode Round-up:

  1. Have faith in the hard times
  2. Sharing your story, even the struggle, removes the crippling grip of isolation and builds stronger communal bonds
  3. Open communication and trust in your care provider are key to a successful birth

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Warning: This episode contains topics that may be uncomfortable or difficult to hear as a pregnant mother.  Please be sure that you are emotionally prepared to discuss: maternal depletion, postpartum depression, nursing difficulties (inverted nipples) and cervical prolapse.

 

-Kelley has had 5 homebirths within a very short amount of time.

-Her first 3 births were in Connecticut, and she moved south weeks before her 4th child's birth.

-Her midwife left for France, and she was attended by another midwife that she did not know well, though the birth went well.

-For her 5th birth, Kelley found a midwife that felt like her best friend.  She loved the experience, though she did not expect to be pregnant so soon.

-Kelley struggled with difficulty accepting her 5th pregnancy and not being able to feel bonded to her baby throughout the pregnancy.  She had hoped that her final baby would be a girl, but she learned early on that she would be having her 4th boy.

-Luckily, Kelley's mother was able to be in town for her birth (she and her mom are incredibly close, and Kelley feels like her mom can read her mind during labor).

-With her 5th birth, she had a birth entourage: Lots of friends, her husband, her mom, a doula, her midwife and apprentices.  She felt very loved and supported, and she was finally able to have the water birth she had always hoped for.

-Once the baby was born, she put him on her chest.  When she looked him over, she realized... HE was a GIRL!  

-Kelley was so thrilled and shocked that her final baby was the girl she had hoped for.  She sent her mom shopping for girl clothes the next morning!

-Postpartum, Kelley struggled with inverted nipples.  She encourages women not to give up if they experience similar struggles.  She says that if you can make it through the first 6 weeks, you'll be able to make it through anything else!

-12 hours after giving birth, Kelley realized she had a cervical prolapse.  She has been incredibly involved in pelvic floor physical therapy since that time.

-It took 12 weeks of bedrest to recover from her cervical prolapse, 6 of which she spent in Connecticut with her parents' help.  

-Kelley recommends that anyone who has postpartum health issues to seek help and guidance.

-19 months later, Kelley is still nursing her little girl and continuing on her journey to recovery.  She is enjoying this new stage of life... not being pregnant!  

 

 

 

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Molly stepped into the doula world 3 years ago, after caring for her mother at her end of life.  Molly realized that caretaking was something she was drawn to, and realized becoming a doula would be a way to continue this role.

-She quit her tech job and opened up her own business, Doulamee LLC.

-Molly teaches childbirth education, both in person and virtually online. 

-She has also founded a client portal, giving a safe community for those giving birth to come and bounce ideas off of each other, as well as molly

-She brings up the “Marathon analogy” (Katelyn is a huge fan of this!): Not preparing for childbirth is like not preparing for a marathon.  You could do the marathon either way, but if you don’t prepare, it’s going to take longer, feel more uncomfortable, you might have to walk some or even hitch a ride, etc.  If you prepare, your muscles know what they’re doing, you aren’t surprised, and you can get the job done faster and with greater ease.

-She focuses on bringing the birthing partner into the fold of birth by having their job be to stimulate birth hormones and get the birthing mother in the correct frame of mind.

-Molly discusses the difference between a doula and a midwife, and why having a doula, even when giving birth at home, is very useful for the family.

-She goes in depth about what constitutes a good birth plan, especially at home.  Molly mentions how important it is to have a good, positive space prepared at home. 

-She discusses preparing for any potential changes in the plan: the unpredictability of birth, and how to bring the home to the hospital if that were necessary.

-Molly discusses the use of the rebozo in a number of ways

- She details her postpartum doula work:  How they debrief from the birth and help process, supporting parents in the initial transition, going over newborn care, having a meal prepared when they get home, etc.

- She discusses the importance of a postpartum plan: who is coming by when, how long they’re staying, what food you’ll be eating, etc.

-Molly’s recommendations:  Take a childbirth education course (it doesn’t have to be at a hospital), read Penny Simpkin’s The Birth Partner, look into Rachel Yellin for any type of hypnosis-based childbirth, work on visualization, and prepare for your “marathon” with nutrition, appropriate attire, and body work.

-Contact Molly and keep up with her!

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IMG_20190124_164441.jpgListen in to this bonus episode to hear how my (Katelyn's) pregnancy is progressing.  Somehow I'm already halfway to the finish line, and I don't know where the weeks went!  

 

Samantha's Surprise Breech Homebirth

  • Samantha has had two hospital births (one medicated induction, one natural), one homebirth, and one birth center birth.
  • At the beginning of her third pregnancy, she researched midwives and decided giving birth in her own space was right up her alley.  Her husband was completely supportive.
  • She interviewed with one midwife and knew in her gut that this was the right fit.  She felt complete trust.
  • Experienced “White Coat Syndrome” previously, but her blood pressure was always perfect with her midwife.  She feels that that shows just how comfortable she was with her care provider.
  • When Sam went into labor, things progressed very quickly.  When her midwife heard her have a contraction over the phone, she got in the car and headed her way immediately.The midwife stayed on the phone with Sam for the entire car ride, as Sam was nervous that she’d have the baby without her.
  • The midwife got into the room, and after Sam had one contraction, the midwife thought something was strange, so she checked Sam.
  • “I don’t want you to freak out, but the baby is breech.”
  • In South Carolina, breech births are not within the guidelines of having a homebirth, so the midwife did call EMS.
  • The baby was safely born at home.  Samantha’s husband told EMS they were not going to transfer to the hospital, as the baby was fine.
  • The fact that her midwife stayed for hours after the birth meant the world to Samantha
  • Samantha shares how a sheriff showed up saying, “I don’t really need to be here, but I heard a baby was being born and I wanted to come!”
  • Katelyn recalls how two men were trying to put a stretcher in Sam’s room, and she remembered wondering to herself, “What are they even trying to do that?”
  • With her last child, Sam gave birth at a hospital birth center.
  • The prenatal experience was more similar to her experience with the OB, though she still liked the experience.
  • She was worried that she would not make it to the birth center during labor, as it takes about an hour to get to the birth center from her home.
  • Sam ended up using the birth center because of the complications of insurance. 
  • When she reached the birth center, her blood pressure was high, and the midwife wanted to transfer her to the hospital.  However, she was progressing so quickly, she did not know whether or not they’d actually make it, so she was able to stay at the birth center.
  • Katelyn mentions how the opening of the hospital-based birth center has been really great for the community, as it’s a great in-between zone for those who are not quite comfortable giving birth at home, but do not necessarily want a hospital birth, either.
  • Sam recommends finding a midwife that takes the time to get to know you and is willing to build a relationship.

 

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I could have titled this birth story 1,000 different ways, but Harry Potter Homebirth?  I know that had to catch your attention!

Show Notes

  • For their first child, Ryan wanted to be in/near a hospital.  They were living in Louisville, Kentucky.
  • Christina went past her due date, but was not induced.  She had a 45 hour labor with baby #1, Eowyn.  
  • Ryan fell asleep in the triage bed!
  • Christina became a doula after having an incredibly supportive team and lovely birth.
  • They had their second child, William, in a free-standing birth center.
  • Liam was born at 41 weeks, 3 days
  • Her out-of-hospital midwife advised an herbal induction.
  • She later realized her first baby was posterior, causing the long labor.
  • Christina went under the care of a chiropractor for baby #2, and she used spinning babies techniques to help position her baby better.
  • Labor #2 was 6 hours, compared to 45hours with the first, and the baby was 10 lbs, 6 oz!
  • Remembers thinking, "This was even better than the hospital!"
  • Ryan and Christina took Hypnobabies with baby #3.
  • Ryan says, "I was literally eating barbeque and drinking beer while Christina was laboring in the tub"... much more comfortable than the triage bed!
  • Their 3rd baby, Patrick, was 41 weeks, 3 days.
  • Prodromal labor started 6 weeks before, so Christina was very tired when she went into labor
  • Pursued an herbal induction again, which was gentle and effective
  • She used acupuncture to help with the prodromal labor
  • Christina got the urge to push after 2-3 hours of labor, but was confused because she didn't feel like she'd been through transition/transformation.
  • Something felt off, so she asked her midwife to check her.
  • The midwife said that she still had a bit of a cervical lip, and recommended that Christina try to avoid pushing for a bit.  What she tactfully did not mention, was that Christina was actually only 4 cm dilated.
  • Christina flipped to her back, and for 30 minutes she had to breathe through her pushing contractions.  She says it was the most difficult part of her labor.
  • Music and singing helped her cope during the no-pushing phase.
  • They had theological discussions during labor about whether or not Mary had a midwife!
  • Christina remembers thinking, "I can't do this anymore."
  • She started singing "Jesus Loves Me," with her husband and midwife, and feels that that intimate moment truly depicts the beauty of homebirth.
  • She then needed to change positions.  She got out of the pool, stood up, and suddenly had to pee.  She didn't want her daughter to see her peeing on the floor!
  • She got on the bed, and her pushing contractions doubled.  She HAD to push.
  • Her water broke forcefully, and baby's head was immediately crowning.
  • Patrick was the largest baby her midwife had caught, at 10 lbs, 9 ounces and 23 inches long.
  • It was only 45 minutes total between Christina being 4 cm and holding her baby.
  • They had opened the window in the bathroom earlier, and it turns out the neighbors heard the baby being born.
  • Christina had a 5 lb placenta
  • After her shower, the midwives came in her room wearing Hogwarts robes and witch hats.
  • She did not tear with her 10+ lb babies, which she attributes to self-directed pushing.
  • Ryan guarded the 6-week postpartum experience, and it changed her postpartum so much for the better.

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