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The Happy Homebirth podcast is your source for positive natural childbirth stories, and your community of support, education and encouragement in all things homebirth and motherhood.
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Monday Mar 14, 2022
Monday Mar 14, 2022
Let’s say you’ve decided that you want a homebirth…but….you’re feeling some uncertainty.
Maybe you’ve heard stories from other moms who wanted the very same, but then their births took another direction, and they didn’t end up with the intimate birth at home that they’d envisioned. How do we come to terms with this possibility, yet not expect negative outcomes? Several weeks ago, one of our community members, Danielle, shared her story of planning a homebirth, but having to make the difficult decision to transport to the hospital during labor, and eventually making the even more difficult decision to have a cesarean section. After such a moving, emotional, and deeply connecting episode – one that truly seemed to touch something in the mothers who experienced similar stories, and the ones who have not alike….I wanted to continue exploring this idea of the hospital transport. I want to take a look at another side of transporting, in a way– another angle to view it from. How can we hear a story like Danielle’s or any other mom who planned for homebirth and ended up needing or wanting to transport— how can we listen to that, but not fear our birth or fear the possibility of transport? I love that we’re able to look at birth through so many contexts and lenses. That we can take personal experiences, mindset exercises and pure old statistics and blend them into a comprehensive, comforting inspection of homebirth and the likelihood of transporting.
So with that in mind, today I want to go through some practical thoughts, tips and reminders regarding homebirth and hospital transport, and the relationship between the two. As always, this is not medical advice, this show is an educational tool, so continue to make empowered decisions for yourself and your family.
We will:
Discuss the most common reasons for transport, and several ways to help discourage their necessity
Share some internal and external pain relief techniques
Discuss how we control the narrative and the perspective-- no matter where we give birth
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Monday Mar 07, 2022
Monday Mar 07, 2022
First births are always long and hard. Period. Right? Or….
This week we’re speaking with Kelsea, a precious mama of two, who surprised herself and her birth team with her first labor. We’ll dig into both of her beautiful experiences.
Episode Roundup
- When Kelsea broke the news that she was having a homebirth to her OB, her OB said, “we always see unsuccessful homebirth attempts.” Well, duh, doctor. You certainly don’t see the successful ones… they’re…. Not at the hospital. I just want to use this as a reminder to you. If you’re receiving dual care, your OB likely doesn’t have any experience with successful homebirths. He or she likely has no idea how many home births are happening successfully in their very own city all the time. So be sure to take their perspective with a grain, of salt.
- Kelsea’s explanation of Fetal Ejection Reflex with both of her births was just so perfect. She recollects to how her body just forcefully pushed on it’s own. She couldn’t stop the pushing. Instead, she could focus on concentrating and on her breathing. Remember this. Your body knows how to push. It’ll let you know when it’s time to do that. You can focus on the breathing and let those amazingly powerful muscles do their thing.
- And finally, remember that you may need to ask for help postpartum. There’s absolutely zero shame in the struggle. Whether it’s your first or fifth child, the transition and addition of a new member to the family, along with the recalibration of your hormones, may lead to some feelings of stress or depression. Please reach out. Share this with your family, share it with your midwife- make sure that you’re getting the love and care that you need.
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Monday Feb 28, 2022
Monday Feb 28, 2022
Let’s say you’re a birth expert- you’ve been working with pregnant mothers for years, and you’re finally having the homebirth of your dreams. Is firm education enough, or will there possibly be unexpected tests in the emotional and mental aspects of birth?
This week we’re speaking with the marvelous Dr. Courtney Kahla. Dr. Courtney is a nervous system centered chiropractor specializing in families. She is the owner of Our Well House: a multidisciplinary wellness center in Dallas, TX. Her mission is to encourage others to experience freedom in their physical, mental, and spiritual health. She is passionate about empowering others to take control of their health by living a lifestyle that honors their God-given innate ability to heal.
We’re going to spend part of this episode discussing chiropractic care, and then the rest diving deep into Dr. Courtney’s own homebirth journey. And wow, you’re in for so much wisdom sprinkled throughout her story.
One theme we discuss in Dr. Kahla’s story is the need for emotional and mental preparation when it comes to homebirth, beyond the basics of childbirth education. With that in mind, I want to invite you to join me as you prepare for your own empowering homebirth experience. Let’s use the unbelievably transformative time of pregnancy as a catalyst into the most incredible motherhood journey. How? Join me inside of Happy Homebirth Academy, where preparing for your homebirth is both thorough and joyful. Learn to comfortably step into your role as the responsible, intuitive mother that you are, and hone those lifelong skills while we educate you on all aspects of midwifery care, physiological birth, and preparing your heart and home. We cover the physical, yes, but we also go deep into the importance of emotional and mental preparation, all while inviting your spouse to be deeply involved and connected from pregnancy, through labor and on into the blissful postpartum period. You ready to transform? Head to myhappyhomebirth.com/hha to get started today.
As always, please remember that the opinions of my guest may not necessarily reflect my own and vice versa, and this show is not medical advice, it’s an educational tool, so continue to take empowered responsibility for yourself and your family.
Episode Roundup:
- I loved the way that Dr. Courtney approached the selection of her care provider. Yes, there were a number of providers in her area that she liked and trusted, but she knew that she needed someone who was going to be comfortable with the informed decisions she was planning to make during her pregnancy and labor. She knew the right questions to ask. “What would cause me to risk out of care with you? What procedures would you be uncomfortable with me declining?” Knowing what you want in a care provider before you walk in for the interview makes this so much easier. Make sure you check out episodes 157 and 159 if you’re looking for more specific help in this area. I’ll link those below.
- I really appreciate the discussion of how vulnerable we are to ideas in labor. Dr. Kahla knew she wanted to fully listen to her body, but when her midwife gave her the very loving tip of giving a few pushes if she wanted— Dr. Courtney did, even though outside of labor she had adamantly wanted to experience Fetal Ejection Reflex on her own. Listen, midwives are human and like Dr. Courtney said, this was totally well-intentioned. But it does go to show us that nobody outside of your body can feel what’s going on inside of your body as well as you can— This is a great lesson for all of us to learn from. If your midwife gives you advice, it can be really easy to just go along with it— of course—we trust them— but remember to trust yourself, too. Listen to the advice, but then try to take a moment before you accept it just because you think that’s what you’re supposed to do.
- And finally, wow. Labor can be so, so mental. Dr. Courtney, the mother that her midwife said she had ZERO worries about desiring to transfer because of her endurance and grit, got to a vulnerable place where she needed her team’s support and reminder that she could, in fact, do this thing. And do it, she did.
Resources:
Episode: Communicating With Your Birth Team About Expectations and Desires
Episode: When Your Midwife Choices are Limited
Free Homebirth Essentials Clickable List
Waitlist for The Homebirth Collective
Monday Feb 21, 2022
Monday Feb 21, 2022
How do we process birth when we don’t experience the outcome we intended? How do we manage changing our plans and accepting what comes to us during the wild and uncontrollable ride that is birth?
This week we’re speaking with Danielle, accompanied by her doula Tracey. Danielle was raised in a homebirth family, so naturally, she was planning her own. We’ll listen to how her story unfolded and how she’s processing through it all now on the other side. I always like to give a heads up when the content of an episode may be especially difficult. This is certainly an episode where things go awry, and if you’re nearing the end of your pregnancy and feel that this isn’t the right time to listen, please take that into consideration. However, these are, of course, real examples of birth, and gosh, birth is sacred no matter how it happens. I’m grateful that Danielle is willing to share her experience with us today.
Episode Roundup
- Danielle’s midwife wasn’t her savior, and yours isn’t yours, either. Hopefully your midwife will support you in the way that you want to be supported, but even so, birth is still ultimately your responsibility. Danielle had to decide what she wanted in regards to her birth— did she want to stay home and continue to attempt labor there, or did she want to transport? Ultimately, she made the decision that she was most comfortable with, knowing that no one else could make it for her.
- The events that occurred throughout her birth experience were unfavorable to her desires, to put it lightly. But because of the way that she has chosen to perceive her experience, Danielle has been able to integrate her story into her motherhood journey in a way that brings positivity and success. Remember, it’s impossible for us to control every outcome. What’s totally possible, though, is how we perceive the experience and how we choose to integrate it. That doesn’t mean that it’s easy, and you absolutely may need help, and grief over not experiencing what you desired is a very normal reaction. But long term suffering over something that’s done— remaining in the victim state— it isn’t going to easily build joy. I love the way that Danielle has approached her story and the way that she’s choosing to heal. Because it is, in fact, an active choice.
- Finally, I want you to know that if your story is like Danielle’s. If you planned and prepared for a homebirth, yet your experience led you to a different outcome, this community is still for you and here for you. You are loved and you are still an integral part of the Happy Homebirth and Homebirth in general, community. Thank you for sharing with us.
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Monday Feb 14, 2022
Monday Feb 14, 2022
What do you do when your mainstream care provider won’t listen to what it is that you need? When you KNOW something isn’t right, but they totally blow you off?
This week we’re speaking to Michelle Rodas, who had to go to battle with her care providers in order to keep her baby safe. We’ll hear how she advocated for her child in utero and what she did to avoid further disruptions later on in her pregnancy, which, believe it or not led her to to out-of hospital midwifery.
Episode Roundup
Did you get goosebumps? I totally did when Michelle shared how she did what she had to do to get progesterone for her baby, and seemingly just in time. As we head into this week’s episode round up, you can bet your bottom dollar that’s what we’re going to discuss.
- Michelle took it upon herself to do research and see what it was that she needed. She took on additional financial responsibility through testing, knowing that the safety of her baby could very well be on the line. Even when her OBs spoke down to her and acted as though her desires were silly and unnecessary, she continued. This is huge, and it leads me to the most important thing you can ever know: NOBODY knows your body and your baby like you know your body and baby. And as harsh as it sounds, nobody is going to care about your body and your baby as much as you will. So don’t bow down to people simply because they have the air quotes authority of a white coat. You’re an intelligent human being and you can advocate for what your baby needs. And if your intuition and prior experiences are telling you that something may be off, listen to that. And act- even if you think others might call you silly or think you’re wrong. Who. Cares. Michelle is snuggling her baby right now, and I doubt she gives a flying flip about what her OB thinks about progesterone.
Okay, my friends. What an incredible episode. It’s all I’ve got for you for now, and I’ll see you back here next week.
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Monday Feb 07, 2022
Monday Feb 07, 2022
What do you do when you’re sold on the idea of homebirth, but your area has either no midwives or no midwives that you like?
Resources
Believe In Midwifery Episode (sustainable midwifery)
https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/episode23/
Shared Decision Making (book)
Shared Decision Making Episode
https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/episode84/
Airbnb Homebirth
https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/episode112/
Shayla’s Birth
https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/episode40/
Dr. Sarah Birth Uprising
https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/episode144/
Freebirth Resources (Curated by my amazing friend, Sophia- @sage.fertility)
Yolande Norris Clark’s website: https://freebirth.ca/
Freebirth Society: https://www.freebirthsociety.com/
Fertility and Freebirth with Noelle Kowalski
https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/episode131/
The Complete Guide to Freebirth Course (extremely thorough): https://www.freebirthsocietycourses.com/a/24099/zgzoH6FJ (btw this is my affiliate link as an RBK)
Freebirth Society Podcast: https://www.freebirthsociety.com/blogs/the-free-birth-podcast
Gestational Diabetes, GBS, Ultrasound Technology, and RH Negative: A New Perspective
https://www.freebirthsociety.com/blogs/the-free-birth-podcast/gestational-diabetes-gbs-ultrasound-technology-and-rh-negative-a-new-perspective?_pos=2&_sid=f8289d5c1&_ss=r
Unpacking Ultrasound With Yolande Clark
https://www.freebirthsociety.com/blogs/the-free-birth-podcast/unpacking-ultrasound-with-yolande-clark?_pos=1&_sid=604819694&_ss=r
The Ecstatic Hormonal High of Childbearing - Dr. Sarah Buckley #35
Pain in Labour: Your hormones are your helpers
https://sarahbuckley.com/pain-in-labour-your-hormones-are-your-helpers/
The Anterior Cervical Lip: how to ruin a perfectly good birth
Vaginal examinations: a symptom of a cervical-centric birth culture
Pushing: leave it to the experts
Unassisted Family HOME BIRTH | Natural + Positive Free Birth
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UiSpXcFUVwI
Unassisted Home Water Birth | POSITIVE NATURAL BIRTH + surprise gender
https://youtu.be/AEKWv4sVBdo
HOME BIRTH: gentle, Natural FAMILY WATER BIRTH
https://youtu.be/rOeNa0NCc44
DIY Placenta Preparation
https://youtu.be/g3pi_8JhkaQ
Rethinking the Pushing Stage, with Whapio
https://birthful.com/podcast-pushing-stage/ (Also awesome resource list in this podcast description)
Odent Fetus ejection reflex
https://www.wombecology.com/home/fetus-ejection-reflex
Small Magic Birth Instagram (priceless pelvic health and freebirth information)
https://www.instagram.com/smallmagicbirth/
Wild Sage Womb DIY Prenatal Wellness Journal
https://www.wildsagewomb.com/offerings/p/diy-prenatal-wellness-journal
Wild Sage Womb Birth Vision Workbook
https://www.wildsagewomb.com/offerings/p/birth-vision-workbookMonday Jan 31, 2022
Monday Jan 31, 2022
Once you’ve had 6 babies, 4 of which were at home— you pretty much know everything there is to know about birth, right?
This week we’re speaking with Lisa Bass of Farmhouse on Boone to hear all about her most recent birth. Lisa shares some of the new insights she gained during this pregnancy and labor preparation, and sheds tons of wisdom throughout her explanation of how she began having home births in the first place. Lisa is a wealth of wisdom when it comes to homemaking and wholesome living, and it’s such a joy to have her on today’s podcast episode.
Episode Roundup:
- Relaxation is the key, and it looks different for everyone. What has helped you cope during labor? For some, it’s touch, it’s your spouse holding your hand, it’s the encouraging words of a doula. For others, it’s quiet. Complete calm, and being alone to focus inward. So many stories are shared where there’s lots of interaction, I’m glad to hear Lisa share how for her, less is more.
- I loved the encouragement that Lisa gave regarding labor and motherhood in general: The empowering recognition that you CAN do it. You can do the research, you can advocate for yourself and your family… you don’t need a fancy degree to dig in and understand what’s going on… you CAN make informed decisions for your family.
- And finally, it doesn’t matter whether it’s your first or fifteenth birth, there’s always something new to learn. Lisa spent several weeks leading up to her birth listening to positive birth stories, and even gained new insight regarding transition. And during this labor, she was able to relax through the pressure- something she’d never been able to do before.
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Monday Jan 17, 2022
Monday Jan 17, 2022
How do we make sure that we’re on the same page with our midwife?
- Begin with open communication before you even hire your midwife
- Make sure that your preferences of how your midwife will operate and interact match with what she is willing to provide
- Be certain that YOU know what You want in a care provider
- Are the two parties in agreement?
- Feel comfortable asking questions as you come from a place of initial agreement an understanding
- Be careful adding additional social checkmarks to your list of needs. Your midwife does not have to be your bestie
- Do not expect your midwife to bear the weight of connection. If you want connection, you must be open and vulnerable.
Resources:
Perfect Supplements use the code HOMEBIRTH for 10% off
Monday Jan 10, 2022
Monday Jan 10, 2022
When you picture homebirth mothers, what image comes to mind? Do you imagine the totally crunchy, completely alternative health mom who’s making her own bone broth and sourdough? Although I may be "that" mother, one thing I love about the homebirth community is that, although we often have much in common, this group is diverse and brings many viewpoints. For example, today we’ll be speaking with Gabby and Daniel, a homebirth family who self-describes as “stale crunchy”. So kind of crunchy, kind of not. It’ll be so great to hear how they approached their first homebirth after two hospital births.
Episode Roundup:
- I appreciated how Gabby and Daniel were considerate of the feelings of their two sons when it came to the involvement in the birth process. They didn’t force their involvement, but met each son where he was and allowed home to be involved to the extent he was comfortable. It’s so neat to be able to share this experience with your kids when that’s what they want, but remembering that each child is an individual and has his or her own preferences is critical.
- We can hold expectations for when and how our baby will arrive all we want, but just like Gabby did with her expectations of labor itself, it’s important to remember that we’ve got to hold all of these ideas of when and how with an open hand. I remember being so certain that my second daughter would arrive several days before 40 weeks that when she was 3 days after, I was almost frustrated at the wait. Every gestation is different, so if we can try to keep the expectations vague, it may make for a smoother end of pregnancy.
- And finally, let us remember that we were divinely made for this work of giving birth. Gabby described herself to me as a wimpy stale crunchy mom who had a homebirth— and she says that should be great encouragement that you can do it, too! And though I see nothing wimpy in Gabby’s story, I think she brings up such an important point. Your background, your preferences, your previous experiences with pain and endurance— none of those things should deter you from giving birth physiologically if that is what you desire. You were made for this, and you hold far more strength than you know.
Monday Jan 03, 2022
Monday Jan 03, 2022
What do we do when our previous birth experience wasn’t so happy? How do we overcome the trauma?
4 Tips to Begin Healing:
1. Reframe your birth with someone outside of the situation
2. Write down everything in stream-of-consciousness style
3. Emotional Freedom Technique - Tapping
Resource Mentioned: @LivingRootsWellness
4. Fascial Work- Craniosacral, craniofascial, myofascial, etc.
5. Recommendations from Instagram
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